After about 8 wks of potty-training, Yoselin has apparently decided the potty is just not for her. This has gone on for over a week now. I have no idea what to do. So, at this point, I'm making the decision to do nothing. Unless someone can give me some magical remedy to fix this, I'm going to the store today to pick up a box of diapers- I can't afford to use pull-ups as diapers anymore.
I just don't understand... I was going to wait until she was 2 1/2 to even start, but at the end of August she was excited and ready. We had a sticker chart- that worked pretty well for awhile. But as she got more consistent we needed a quicker reward, so we chose tic-tacs (or m&m's when tic-tacs were out). That seemed to work wonderfully for about 2 weeks, or more. Then, in the last week and a half it all just went to pot (pun? intended). Sitting on the potty apparently doesn't even occur to her anymore. If I take her to it, I might as well be torturing her. She has been on an antibiotic and decongestant for a large part of this regression, but these meds have not rendered her incompentent in any other way... I've tried encouraging, I've tried scheduled sittings, I've even tried punishment once or twice (which seems pointless really).
This is very, very discouraging.
Do I sound like I have unrealistic expectations? If you think so, say so.
The twos are really getting me down @ the moment.
8 comments:
You have two options:
1)Continue the torture and "force" her to use the potty. (This is probably more torture on mom than on the child.)
or
2)Relax and hang it up for awhile. Try again in a couple of months.
I tried option 1 with my first two children and it was MISERABLE for everyone. By the third child I was tired of the fight and let him go at his own pace. Two different means to an end; either way works...eventually. Either way, she WILL be potty-trained before she goes to kindergarten. Hang in there!
thanks kati. :) after an afternoon of self torture ("what did I do wrong?") i've just decided to stop fighting. she'll come back to it when she's ready, i guess. maybe my advising her that the school-bus ride she longs for won't happen till she figures out this potty thing will eventually sink in.
ty was actually vocal about his refusal to potty train: "but i WANT to poop in my diaper" and "i don't WANT to wear big boy pants."
then one day, when he was 2-1/2 he suddenly asked to go potty while we were at the pool (of all places). he was fully trained in about a week.
much more relaxing :)
Being sick might have something to do with it?
Let's just say my 2nd child relapsed after a short time of being successful. We waited a couple of months, re-introduced the sticker chart, much clapping and celebrating and that was it.
Rest assured it's NOT anything you are doing wrong. yosi is YOSI ~ as I am sure you have realized by now. Each child finds their own right time.
Then again you could always try reverse psychology and tell her she CAN"T use the potty chair. It worked on your husband when he was about her age and wouldn't eat cheese. I just started telling him he couldn't have it. Before long he thought it was a treat! :)
Just realized my first statement had an ill-placed question mark.
I really do think being sick, not feeling well and taking meds could have its effect on her potty training.
Don't be discourages ... this phase shall pass! :D
thanks gals. i'm actually enjoying going back to diapers @ the moment. alot less worry when we go places! no fun changing clothes half-way thru playdates or shopping (on days we were brave enough to use panties).
There you go! Takes the pressure off from both of you!
:D
Great advice, from everyone - I agree that it's something that can't be forced and each child takes to it differently. I don't have anything to add, except to say that potty training is my least favorite thing about raising young children. But hang in there . . . this too shall pass. (how's that for a pun?)
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